This the third, and last, of a three-part series of articles on "What Makes Kids Care?"
What About Effects of the Outside World?
Parents understandably worry that their effort at home can be undermined by outside influences, such as their children's friends, daily violence in their own neighborhoods, television shows and movies, or a culture that exalts "heroes" who are selfish.
There are a few things that you can do to help counteract these influences. for instance:
* Give them books that promote compassionate behavior. Keep in mind, though, that kids -- especially teenagers -- don't like characters who are goody-two-shoes, so look for books about "ordinary" characters who perform acts of caring and concern.
* A study at the National Institute of Mental Health found that children who see kindness on television tend to imitate it. For this reason, you may want to limit their viewing of violent programs and encourage them to watch shows that promote ideas about caring and helping.
* Find out about the movies your children want to see: are they excessively violent, do they glamorize criminals or people who get ahead at the expense of others, do they glorify violence to people or animals? While you can't shield your children from everything, a little discussion can go a long way. Ask them to think about what they saw and to consider other approaches the characters might have taken.
* Educate your children about famous altruists. Local museums can provide an inexpensive and enjoyable way to do this, as can television specials and books. Talk to them about whom they admire, and why.
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This is the second article of a three-part series on "What Makes Kids Care?" that was published by the American Psychological Association.
What Can Parents Do?
Let them Know How You Feel
The most important thing you can do is to let your children know how much it means to you that they behave with kindness and responsibility. When you catch your child doing something that you think is thoughtless or cruel, you should let them know right away that you don't want them doing that. Speak to your child firmly and honestly, and keep your focus on the act, not on the child personally. Say something along the lines of "What you did is not very nice" rather than "YOU are not very nice!"
It's important to let your children know how deeply you feel about their behavior toward others. If they see that you have a real emotional commitment to something, it's more likely that the issue will become important to them, too. This emotional reaction needs to be accompanied by information, some explanation of why you disapprove. For example, you can say, "Look, Joey is crying. He's crying because you took his toy away. That wasn't a very nice thing to do!" or "It hurts the cat when you do that; that's why he scratched you. It isn't kind, and I don't want you to do that anymore!"
Be frank, honest, and upfront with your kids about what kind of behavior you do and don't like. Also, keep it short and to the point; the idea is to teach them, not make them feel guilty!
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Posted by Ms. Rivera at 8:40 AM | Permalink
Teaching Gentleness in a Violent World
It seems as though we are surrounded by violence and cruelty. According to the National Crime Survey, almost 3 million crimes occur on or near school campuses every year; that's 16,000 per school day, or one every 6 seconds. A recent study on domestic violence found that many high school boys thought it was all right for a boy to strike his girlfriend if she angered him; meanwhile, during the early 1980's, nearly 17,000 people were killed by their domestic partners.
In a world where violence and cruelty seem to be common and almost acceptable, a lot of parents wonder what they can do to help their children become 'kinder and gentler'--to develop a sense of caring and compassion for others. Raising kids who care isn't a solution to violence by itself, but you might worry that being exposed to a lot of violence -- whether it's on television or on the streets -- could make your children 'hard' and uncaring.
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As parents and teachers, we often provide an enriching cognitive and physical skills environment but sometimes ignore addressing the affective domain. In Young Children, a journal from the National Association for the Education of Young Children (Jan 2000), Susan Turner refers to this domain as the essence of a person’s spirit that gives them life, their uniqueness, and their spark of fire. She refers to this as “canto hondo,” the deep song. We often expand a young child’s mind but forget to equally do the same for his or her soul.
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Often in our lives, we find ourselves reaching out to others for support because difficulty and pain have intruded into our daily living. While many of us have been blessed with compassionate help from family and friends who have stepped in to ease our suffering and provide the support we need, there are many in our own society who have no one. Some of them go hungry and have very limited resources for obtaining food. Our MPI community can be a compassionate part of that much needed support for those individuals and families reaching out for help. By initiating a year-round canned food collection project, we can truly be of service to others.
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